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Do you think your spouse should come before your children or your children should come before your spouse? Do you think they can share the spot and everyone can come out on top?

The above question was posed, along with the list a Christian (or church) marriage counselor gave as a list of people who hold importance in your life:
1. God
2. Spouse
3. Kids
4. Everything else...

Well, you know Willie Stylez had to answer the question!

Another blogger, TheDLife, stated a GREAT case for why they would put GOD and then THEMSELVES first! I loved TheDLife's response very much, so I would have to say my list goes as follows:

1. GOD
2. ME
3. Wife
4. Kids
5. Ext Family/Close Friends
6. Everything Else

I commented that why I chose #2 to be me is:

"The fact that we forget ourselves in the equation is POWERFUL! I have told people, time and again, that they must be happy and fulfilled by themselves before they can make someone else happy in a relationship with them!" I have to be right with myself, and have improved (and continue to improve) myself before I can be of any worth to my wife, kids, etc.

I put my wife above my kids only because, in front of GOD, I declared an everlasting love and commitment to my wife! I also declared, by default and following HIS guidance, that I would:

"Train up a child in the way he should GO; even when he is old he will not depart from it."

And then

"a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh"

So because I am ONE FLESH with my wife, and I feel that my children will learn from my teaching and go out and become one flesh with their own spouses, then I have done my job for them! I am not saying I will stop loving and assisting them, but I have to let them go and let them lead their own lives!

We get so caught up in that VERY SHORT 18-years we have a child with us, that we forget the LIFETIME we're supposed to spend with our spouse. It's true, marriage is not guaranteed (especially in these horrible times) BUT if you truly work at making the marriage and family successful, then it can be! It's sad that many marriages end because of that "stranger-danger" (the problem of spouses becoming "strangers" because they spend so much time taking care of kids/career/etc and forget to take care & continue to know their spouse)! But it's avoidable if you put the work into sharing the family workload, as well as share in the work of being ONE FLESH!

My wife and I make it a point to talk about our day, our lives, our fears/goals/dreams, we go out on dates (together, of course, LOL) and take a (no kids) vacation each year, among other things. That way we can connect and re-connect on a regular basis. All the while, as we raise our family!

That's what Stylez thinks! What do you think?

Adam and Eve were never ordained married. That came about from the tradition of man. Just love who you are with and thank GOD for them...be faithful - what do you think?

So What Does Stylez Think?

So I was bouncing around the "INTERNETS" making people GO NUTS! And of course, I came across a quote that got me thinking. As you can see above, someone decided to stir the pot on the Status of Marriage! I am married, legally not just on FB! LOL!, so I recognize the importance and the benefits of marriage. But this little tidbit was interesting and I just had to answer:

That is VERY INTERESTING... it depends on which definition you use to describe marriage! Merriam-Webster has 3 definitions, and the first two describe a lawful act and a traditional ceremony (which, like your friend said, is a tradition of man). When Jehovah created Eve, that UNION was so strong, so eternal, that you have to look to the third definition: " an intimate or close union" ... or Princeton's inverted definition: "a close or intimate union". There could be no argument that if you were MADE from me, our UNION could be no closer or intimate than that! So, TECHNICALLY Adam & Eve were joined in marriage under GOD's LAW of Marriage as it was recognized by HIM! In modern times, a priest/minister/rabbi/judge is required to oversee you're union and confirm it in order for it to be lawfully recognized... unless you live in a Common Law state/country where just the act of being in union for a long period of time is sufficient! So be it religious, lawful or social, marriage is a SERIOUS and complicated status, so you definitely want to enter into it prepared and ready for the long haul!

That Is What Stylez Thinks! What do you think? Please comment!

I was going through some posts and news stories on the internet and of course, with the news about Same Sex Marriage laws possibly being overturned, the Topic Of The Day was ... Same Sex Marriage! And of course, everybody had an opinion! Well, of course, I had to chime in!

I don't believe its right for me and it goes against my beliefs! BUT I am not about to bring judgement upon those who do it! It trips me out to hear people throwing out the "I go by GOD", "I do what GOD says", "GOD is not going to like it", blah, blah, blah. But those are the SAME people SINNING too! Eating in excess; Gambling (lottery too); getting drunk; smoking; pre-marital sex & adultery; dating multiple people; doing drugs (and yes, weed IS a drug); not going to regular religious services; participating in, practicing and/or willingly watching unrighteous activities (like those rap videos, most movies, violent sports and entertainment, etc)! Those are ALL unacceptable and most are SINS against GOD! None of us are perfect! Jesus said that "he WITHOUT sin cast the first stone"!!! Well all you stone throwers need to check yourselves again before you get "high & mighty" against homosexuals. EVERYONE will have to answer for their sins, heterosexuals TOO!

That is what Stylez thinks! What do you think? Please comment!